Intersex Writer and Activist

My latest, on dismantling the intersex closet, in The Advocate

It’s so nice to be writing essays again after a rather long hiatus working on my memoir. Big thanks to The Advocate for running my latest, “Why We Must Dismantle the Intersex Closet.” Please share if you like to help spread awareness and make it easier for your intersex friends and their families to come out. 🙂

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Intersex Pride on Oprah

Intersex Pride on Oprah

“I wouldn’t be a ‘regular’ woman if you paid me: this is who I want to be.” — Hida on Oprah “I find this so fascinating: you literally walk between worlds.” — Oprah Winfrey on Hida Viloria “One of the biggest things about embracing being intersex, for me, is not choosing a side. Society pressures you to… Continue Reading

Supermodel Hanne Gaby Odiele comes out as intersex!

Supermodel Hanne Gaby Odiele comes out as intersex!

“You can be accepted however you happen to be! The ‘norm’ is not what you think it is.” — Hanne Gaby Odiele I am SO happy about this! Brava to supermodel Hanne Gaby Odiele for coming out as #intersex!  As outlined in USA Today, she did so, like all intersex advocates, to shine a light on… Continue Reading

Audio Book Recording of Born Both Begins!

Audio Book Recording of Born Both Begins!

Starting tomorrow I’ll be in a studio for 5 days recording the audio version of my memoir—AH!!!!!! Can I really read that much out loud? It’s gonna be weird! But also cool. But weird…. Wish me luck! 🙂  #BornBoth #readingaloudgonewild #intersex  #intersexstories #memoir P.S. Haven’t started yet; this pic’s from a 2014 interview at KPFA Radio, in Berkeley.     Continue Reading

Quoted in People Magazine!

Quoted in People Magazine!

I was SO happy to hear the news last week about NYC’s intersex birth certificate—from the fantastic Sara Kelly Keenan, the person who’s been issued the historic certificate– and to share it, and today I’m thrilled to be quoted about the development in People magazine! From the article, “Advocates Say Issuing Nation’s First Intersex Birth Certificate… Continue Reading

Fantastic Born Both Review by Kirkus!

Fantastic Born Both Review by Kirkus!

“Intelligent and courageous, the author’s book chronicles one intersex person’s path to wholeness, but it also affirms the right of all intersex and nonbinary people to receive dignity and respect. A relentlessly honest and revealing memoir.” — Kirkus Reviews SO excited and happy about this review!!!! Thanks to Kirkus for reading! Read the full review here.… Continue Reading

Quoted in Natl Geographic article about why they corrected Intersex definition

Quoted in Natl Geographic article about why they corrected Intersex definition

Lots of times people don’t remedy situations when unfortunate mistakes are made, but National Geographic magazine did,  and I’m so happy about it!  In this article, editor-in-chief Susan Goldberg explains why they originally defined being intersex as a “disorder” in their “Gender Revolution” issue, and why they changed the definition–quoting yours truly in the process.… Continue Reading

Pls Tell Nat’l Geo. To Stop Calling Intersex a Disorder

Pls Tell Nat’l Geo. To Stop Calling Intersex a Disorder

FOR ALL INTERSEX PEEPS, OUR FAMILIES & ALLIES: I recently learned that National Geographic Magazine (@natgeo) plans to use hurtful, pathologizing language to describe intersex people in their upcoming January issue, “Gender Revolution” (as seen in pics below). I am so disappointed as I’d been contacted to be a part of the accompanying documentary (airing… Continue Reading

Love & Acceptance IS Possible (Derr!)

Love & Acceptance IS Possible (Derr!)

Since I came out as an intact intersex person, people have speculated as to how hard it must have been for me as a child. There’s a perception that it will be so hard for intersex kids to be accepted, but just listen to what the friends of an eight year old South African intersex… Continue Reading

Happy Human Rights Day Everyone!

Happy Human Rights Day Everyone!

It’s hard to believe it’s been three years today since I spoke at the UN: one of the most fulfilling, moving moments of my life. It happened for the UN’s Human Rights Day 2013 event Sports Comes Out Against Homophobia, which I was invited to participate in to speak on discrimination against intersex female athletes… Continue Reading

US Govt Must Recognize Intersex & Nonbinary People!

US Govt Must Recognize Intersex & Nonbinary People!

I couldn’t be happier about this victorious ruling, or prouder to call Dana Zzyym, the plaintiff in the case, my friend! In case you missed news of Dana’s historic lawsuit, here’s this beautiful 1 minute video by Lambda Legal, Dana’s brilliant representatives in the case. You can read all about the details and court ruling… Continue Reading

Short Intvw on UN Radio’s UN Gender Focus

Short Intvw on UN Radio’s UN Gender Focus

It’s hard to encapsulate complex intersex human rights issues and one’s life experience and gender identity in 2 minutes, but I’m very grateful to UN Radio for allowing me to do so in this educational segment about intersex people & gender fluid gender identity issues — even though they accidentally called me “HILDA”, lol. Enjoy!… Continue Reading

Honoring the Intersex Day of Remembrance

Honoring the Intersex Day of Remembrance

The Intersex Day of Remembrance, also known as Intersex Solidarity Day, is observed on November 8th, the birthday of Herculine Barbin. As the observance’s founder Gina Wilson, former president and founder of OII Australia and pioneering crusader for intersex human rights, elaborated in the Star Observer in 2011, Barbin is the earliest recorded intersex person to have been subjected to the… Continue Reading

Quoted in UN’s Intersex Awareness Campaign!

Quoted in UN’s Intersex Awareness Campaign!

I’m deeply grateful to the folks at the UN’s Free & Equal Campaign for continuing to work towards ending discrimination against intersex people–today with the launch of their beautiful Intersex Awareness campaign–and deeply honored to participate as one of the people featured in their Intersex Voices segment. They wanted short statements geared at educating the… Continue Reading

Please share this UN Intersex Awareness video!

The sentiment of this #IntersexAwareness video is so beautiful it made me cry. It depicts a family deciding to love and acceptance their intersex newborn, in less than two minutes, and w/o dialogue so it can appeal to people of all language speaking communities.  PLEASE share widely today, #IntersexAwarenessDay, to help spread love & acceptance… Continue Reading

Quoted in Huff Post article “Intersex ED at the UN”

I’m honored to be quoted in the fantastic essay, “Intersex ED at the UN”, published in light of the upcoming #intersexAwarenessDay —  just 2 days away!  It explains that I feel blessed not have been subjected to Intersex Genital Mutilation (IGM), and that: “I want to encourage all parents of intersex kids to do the same. Trying to… Continue Reading

Presenting @ World Sexual Health Day 2016 at Stanford!

Presenting @ World Sexual Health Day 2016 at Stanford!

Excited to be back in the Bay to present at World Sexual Health Day 2016, “Eliminating the Myths”, co-hosted Weiland Health Initiative at Stanford University! Thursday, September 29th, 2016 5:30 – 10:00 pm Paul Brest Hall Conference Center Stanford University I will be speaking about intersex people and sexuality with a panel of esteemed experts including: Inge Hansen, Karli… Continue Reading

Presenting at Princeton!

I am honored and excited to be presenting my 101 workshop, “Reimagining the Human Species: Intersex People in Society”, and my lecture,” Sex is Complicated: Intersexionality and Intersex Human Rights, Identity and Discourse”, today at Princeton. It’s truly incredible to see how far awareness, and discussions about intersex people’s lives have come, and an honor… Continue Reading

My Bibliography

Here it is, my bibliography, freshly updated and chock full of intersex and non-binary perspectives on gender, human rights, embracing difference, discrimination in sports, and mainly, love & equality. Enjoy! #intersex #BornBoth #HidaViloria #intersexArticles #intersexEssays #IntersexWriters #IntersexVoices #IntersexEquality Continue Reading

Published in a new college textbook on queer theory by Oxford Univ. Press!

Published in a new college textbook on queer theory by Oxford Univ. Press!

My essay, “What’s in a Name: Intersex and Identity”, was selected for and appears in the college textbook, Queer: A Reader for Writers, published this January, 2016, by Oxford University Press. The book includes an interdisciplinary mix of public, academic, and cultural reading selections, and was developed for courses in first-year writing. It provides students with… Continue Reading

Speaking at the APPPAH 19th Congress

I’ll be speaking about the right to genital integrity, as it relates to intersex people, this Friday, December 4th, at the Association For Prenatal And Perinatal Psychology And Health (APPPAH)’s 19th International Congress (December 3-6, 2015). I am honored to be joined by FGM survivor, award-winning director (Fire Eyes, which highlights the barbaric practice of FGM),… Continue Reading

Essay published in the Narrative Inquiry in Bioethics medical journal

Essay published in the Narrative Inquiry in Bioethics medical journal

My essay, “Promoting Health and Social Progress by Accepting and Depathologizing Benign Intersex Traits”, has been published in the Narrative Inquiry in Bioethics fall issue, which features a Narrative Symposium on Intersex. From the NIB website’s description of the symposium: What are the joys and heartaches faced by people diagnosed intersex? These symposium authors offer readers an honest look into their lives. The… Continue Reading

My video for the U.N.’s Free & Equal campaign!

It is truly an honor to appear in this short video by the UN Free & Equal Campaign for LGBT equality, which they have released in conjunction with their fantastic new Intersex Fact Sheet. https://unfe.org/system/unfe-65-Intersex_Factsheet_ENGLISH.pdf. The video was filmed when I was invited to speak at the U.N. on Human Rights Day, back in 2013, as… Continue Reading

Speaking to Stanford students, about love <3

My mind has been spinning non-stop this past week, swirling in the aftermath and analysis of hate. We have witnessed so many innocent people being gunned down b/c they are black, and then a rash of hateful, dismissive, and/or devaluing remarks towards a woman because she identifies as black. Both incidents have made me very… Continue Reading

Interviewed live today on LA radio’s Ann Walker Show, with Ian Harvie!

I’m very excited to be interviewed live today on the fabulous Ann Walker Show,  co-hosted by hysterical, talented trans comedian Ian Harvie, who has starred on the acclaimed television show Transparent, and was interviewed along with me and others in the fantastic new book The Human Agenda. The show runs from 6 – 7:30 p.m. Pacific Standard… Continue Reading

Speaking in SF this Friday, June 5th, for Pride Month! :)

I’m thrilled to join Joe Wenke, author of The Human Agenda: Conversations about Sexual Orientation & Gender Identity, and my fellow contributors Gisele Alicia (model, Barney’s Brothers & Sisters Campaign) and Captain Kevin Fisher-Paulson (author, SF Sheriff’s Dept.)  to share our stories, perspectives and commitment to freedom and equality. Please join for what promises to be a thought… Continue Reading

Two talks in Barcelona!

Two talks in Barcelona!

I am deeply grateful to fantastic allies Professors Joan Pujol Tarrés, PhD, and Marisela Montenegro, PhD, of the Department of Social Psychology (Departament de Psicologia Social) at the Universitat Autònoma de Barcelona (UAB), and Miguel Misse & Pol Galofre of Barcelona’s Cultura Trans, for sponsoring two fantastic events to bring  me to Barcelona! I lectured… Continue Reading

My video in fab GENDER TALENTS project by Carlos Motta

I was interviewed for Gender Talents, a fantastic web-based project by artist Carlos Motta that engages movements and discourses for gender self-determination within trans and interest communities. Carlos did a FANTASTIC job capturing some of my best points about the numerous issues that impact intersex people —  such as homophobia, gender-variant-phobia, sexism, fear of lesbian… Continue Reading

My interview in fab GENDER TALENTS web project

I was interviewed for <em>Gender Talents</em>, a fantastic web-based project by artist Carlos Motta that engages movements and discourses for gender self-determination within trans and interest communities. Carlos did a FANTASTIC job capturing some of my best points about the numerous issues that impact intersex people —  such as homophobia, gender-variant-phobia, sexism, fear of lesbian… Continue Reading

My interview in The Human Agenda: Conversations about Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity

I am interviewed in the fantastic new book The Human Agenda: Conversations about Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity (February 5, 2015), by author and LGBTQI advocate Joe Wenke. I speak about the harmful “normalizing” non-consensual medical practices – a.k.a. Intersex Genital Mutiltion (IGM) – that intersex minors are often subjected to, the dangers of pathologizing intersex… Continue Reading

New Advocate Essay: Bullying Intersex Women Athletes with High T

Well, they changed my original title – “Bullying By Any Other Name: What’s Really Behind Regulations for Women with High Testosterone” – to, “Stop Freaking Out About Female Intersex Athletes”, but otherwise I’m thrilled to have this essay run in the Advocate! (Read here: http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2014/09/18/op-ed-stop-freaking-out-about-female-intersex-athletes).   It elaborates on the issue in all the ways… Continue Reading

Pre-Aljazeera Thoughts on Fashionable Bigotry

I’m going to be on Aljazeera today — soon, in fact — talking about the sports policies against intersex woman with hyperandrogenism (high testosterone levels). Much more to come, but here’s the skinny: these women haven’t been doping and yet they’re being forced to take unnecessary hormones just to be able to compete — with no medical/scientific… Continue Reading

On Aljazeera today, Sept 3rd, 12:30pm PST

I’m thrilled to be on Aljazeera radio’s The Stream today, speaking about how the sports regulations against intersex women athletes — specifically those with hyperandrogenism (high testosterone levels) — are discrimination, pure & simple. Also on will be fabulous allies Payoshni Mitra and Katrina Karkazis. Click here to watch. 🙂 https://docs.google.com/file/d/0Bw1ZTKAAZLcNck5UOXlIaUlTZFk/preview   Continue Reading

New Blog Essay on Cisgender

http://intersexandout.tumblr.com/post/95130298770/caught-in-the-gender-binary-blind-spot-intersex “Finally, everything I’ve been saying about cisgender — and how it reinforces the gender binary — in one LONG (yes, warning, it’s dense) essay. 🙂 “ Continue Reading

Presenting at GA14, the 13th Annual Genital Autonomy Symposium

I’m thrilled to present at this fantastic event, and honored to join with fellow pioneers in the fight for bodily intergrity and an end to infant genital cutting. I will be introducing the award winning inersex documentary Intersexion (http://www.intersexionfilm.com/) on July 23rd and 24th, with a Q&A to follow.  On the 24th I will be speaking… Continue Reading

The Gender that Dare Not Speak its Name

One of the icons of the queer community once said, “Consistency is the last refuge of the unimaginative.” I’m talking about the Western world’s first openly gay diva, the one and only, Oscar Wilde, whose wise words make me feel much better about missing last week’s blog post (as well as the “Wednesday” target this… Continue Reading

The Importance of Allies

So I went to a baseball game for the first time in about 35 years yesterday, because the person who invited me is so cool she inspired some formerly nonexistent interest, and I actually had a great time! (Such a great time that this blog is being posted on Thursday, rather than the typical Wednesday,… Continue Reading

Interview on IMRU Radio, Los Angeles

https://soundcloud.com/prideonscreen/imru-show-140616. Got to speak to fantastic intersex ally Vash Boddie of IMRU Radio for this one, mainly about the Third international Intersex Forum and the global intersex advocacy community’s goals, and I love how it came out. 🙂 The interview starts 34:20 minutes in FYI, and is short and sweet, in case you wanna give… Continue Reading

Just another frivolous, glittery gender observation

Given my newfound commitment to weekly Wednesday blogging , not every blog will be a well thought out exploration of topics deeply intergral to being intersex. Some weeks’ posts are bound to be just the random, shallow but hopefully funny musings of your typical intersex chick next door. I think this is one of them.… Continue Reading

The Third Sex: Then, Now, Never

I’ll never forget seeing the cover of a 1950’s lesbian novel called The Third Sex. It’d been made into a postcard, and was on sale at one of those touristy gay stores in Manhattan’s West Village. The cover was alarmist, calling homosexuality “society’s greatest curse”, and featuring a picture of two women about to make… Continue Reading

Who do you think you are: intersex and appropriation

I was recently interviewed by the awesome Vash Boddie of IMRU radio in L.A., the county’s longest running LGBTI radio station (airdate T.B.A.). At one point, he said, “everyone’s a little intersex”, and it got me thinking: who can call themselves intersex? It’s a relevant question because, believe it or not, there’s a fair amount… Continue Reading

How Now Pro Noun?  

Nowadays, the preferred-gender-pronoun question comes up quickly when I speak about being intersex. I see it as a positive indication that we’re moving beyond Intersex 101, and folks are starting to wonder what we’re actually like, as people. I tell them that, just like non-intersex people, we have a wide range of gender identities and… Continue Reading

Advocating Equality

Hi everyone! I thought I’d apologize for and share that the reason it’s taken me SO long to write something new is that my mom passed away this year. Being a sensitive, emotional type, and her death being unexpected, it knocked me for a loop. And then another. And another. Now however, I feel her… Continue Reading

New essay in The Advocate: Intersex & Identity

My latest blog post/essay —  What’s in a Name: Intersex and Identity — discusses the history of society deeming people who are different as innately inferior, how this is currently happening to intersex people, and how this language does not support equality. Hope you like it, & thanks to the Advocate for running it! http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2014/05/14/op-ed-whats-name-intersex-and-identity Continue Reading

Interview on LA Talk Radio 5-7pm

Today I’ll be talking with fabulous radio personality Sheena Metal — who recently came out as intersex herself — on her show the Sheena Metal Experience!!! Two intersex folks dishing it for two hours on the radio– it’s a first for me & it should be great. 🙂 To listen in, go to: http://tunein.com/radio/The-Sheena-Metal-Experience-p399804/ Continue Reading

Video of my presentation at the UN. O M G….!

Yesterday was a magical moment, a dream come true. Feeling blessed & grateful to have this opportunity to educate the world about intersex people’s need for human rights, and with such amazing co-panelists. NOTE: UN High Commissioner of Human Rights Navi Pillay had to cancel due to Nelson Mandela’s memorial, but UN Assistant Secretary-General for… Continue Reading

Speaking at the UN for Human Rights Day!

It’s thrilling and an honor to be presenting at the United Nations in New York in recognition of Human Rights Day, Dec. 10th, along with the UN High Commissioner for Human Rights Navi Pillay, tennis legend Martina Navratilova, basketball star Jason Collins (the 1st NBA player to come out as gay), and fabulous human rights… Continue Reading

My segment on HuffPostLive

This was perhaps my most enjoyable media experience ever, b/c I got to do it with some of my favorite American intersex activists.  I’m grateful & thrilled that HuffPostLive wanted to do a segment with intersex people about who we are, and that they asked me to direct them to the other guests. Joining me… Continue Reading

Essay in The Advocate: Germany’s Third-Gender Law Fails on Equality

Yes, there’s more to say about Germany’s new third gender law, especially to readers that understand the LGBTI perspective and the issues that affect us.  Also, I got to correct inaccurate press statements about Australia’s third gender law applying to intersex babies, which it doesn’t, just adults who want it. Read “Germany’s Third Gender Law… Continue Reading

I’m keynote speaker at fantastic event today

http://bayareabirthjusticefair.wordpress.com/2013/11/02/fall-2013-forum-key-note-speaker-hida-viloria/ Very happy to be presenting at this event for parents which deals specifically with the issue of children’s right to physical integrity.  And I have a whole stack of brochures of the educational resource for parents of intersex newborns that I authored — Your Beautiful Child: Information for Parents — to bring with me.… Continue Reading

I’ll be on BBC World Services tonight

I’m going to be interviewed on BBC World Services tonight about being intersex in light of Germany’s new third gender law, which becomes effective tomorrow, November 1st. The show, Newsday, starts at 8:30pm PST (calif time), and I should be on approx 9:20pm. Spoiler alert: the law is NOT a good thing for intersex babies,… Continue Reading

Happy Intersex Awareness Day everyone!!!!

Please help spread awareness by sharing the info in this link with at least one person in your life. 🙂 https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=644596792238810&set=a.355696581128834.86699.189133101118517&type=1&theater Continue Reading

On The Ann Walker Show — the Day of DOMA’s Defeat!

Hi all! So excited to be speaking today — on the historic demise of DOMA (the Defense of marriage Act)– with radio personality and award-winning TV, film and stage actress Ann Walker on The Ann Walker Show on United Broadcast Radio.  Tune in from 6-7:30pm (I’ll be coming on around 6:20) at ubnradio.com, Channel 1. Also… Continue Reading

My essay in The Advocate

I’m thrilled to have one of my blog essays, “Intersex: The Final Coming Out Frontier”,  published in The Advocate, the US’s oldest, largest LGBT (hopefully soon to be LGBTI 🙂 ) publication. Yay for inclusion! (Even if they did use the dorkiest picture of me ever, lol!) http://www.advocate.com/commentary/2013/06/12/op-ed-intersex-final-coming-out-frontier#.Ubh3p4FtWWQ.facebook Continue Reading

Hermaphrodykes on Bikes

Hermaphrodykes on Bikes

The LGBTQI Pride Parade was today in Los Angeles, and instead of riding with the Dykes on Bikes, or watching with friends and then going to Booby Trap, the queer women’s pool party, I found myself blissfully biking down to the beach, then along the beach… then texting cancellations. Basically, I’m more into chill activities… Continue Reading

We’re Here, We’re Herms, Get Used to It!

We’re Here, We’re Herms, Get Used to It!

[Note: In honor of LGBTQI Pride month, this post’s title is a riff on the old Queer Nation slogan, “We’re Here! We’re Queer! Get used to it!” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Queer_Nation.] There’s a line in Golden Boy, the excellent, recently released novel featuring a 16 year-old intersex protagonist, where he says that you have to choose one or the other, boy… Continue Reading

Golden Boy, by Abigail Tarttelin: Read it!

Just read the novel Golden Boy, by Abigail Tarttelin, about a 16 year-old intersex boy. The full review’s coming up separately, but I want to quickly say that I found it hard to put down, and that it didn’t– unlike lots of stuff written by non-intersex people about intersex people – offend me or, imho,… Continue Reading

Your Beautiful Child: Information for Parents

Your Beautiful Child: Information for Parents

I am touched and excited to announce my new free resource for parents of intersex newborns: Your Beautiful Child: Information for Parents. It is available in two versions: — Your Beautiful Child Tri-fold Brochure — Your Beautiful Child One-Sheet Version This project was a labor of love, inspired by the many mothers who have asked… Continue Reading

My org OII selected as a finalist for Global Prize for Social Justice!

I’m flying off to Michigan tomorrow to present Organisation Intersex International’s work in person on Saturday, May 11th, and whether or not we win, it’s an honor to our work acknowledged by the jurors, including the likes of the incredible Angela Davis. 🙂 http://www.mlive.com/news/kalamazoo/index.ssf/2013/04/kalamazoo_college_announces_15.html Continue Reading

Jesus Was My Intersex Role Model

Jesus Was My Intersex Role Model

Recently, I’ve been thinking about what motivated me to be an intersex spokesperson and activist. For starters, there’s inspirational role models like the incredibly brilliant, badass Angela Davis. She took the racist establishment on head first, eloquently and bravely, jeopardizing her career as a university professor and spending 18 months in prison as a result. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh49nbTq268… Continue Reading

Interesting fact: At approx. 1.7% of the population, Intersex people are as common as red-heads. “Everyone’s met an intersex person, you just may not know you have.”

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